Unplugged: A Baecation Recap

Rest, Romance, and the Power of Quality Time

Couples today might not be busier than those before us, but the constant stream of distractions makes it feel that way. We tend to forget that, especially after many years together, our marriages still need tending—just like every other relationship we value. Being physically present is not the same as being connected. If you're anything like me and mine, life’s demands can stretch you thin, and this is where the idea of quality time comes in—heavy on the quality.

This goes beyond romance—it’s about maintaining intimacy, trust, friendship, and the emotional connection that daily life can so easily erode. It remains one of the most important aspects of a healthy, long-lasting relationship. So let me ask: when was the last time you saw your partner without the glow of a screen nearby? When was the last time you sat together, fully present with each other?

The Wake-Up Call

Recently, I realized there wasn’t enough time in the day to do everything I wanted—let alone breathe life into my relationship. As a result, my marriage had taken a backseat. It wasn’t that I wasn’t managing my time as best I could; it was simply that my priorities needed adjusting. I noticed it in shorter tempers, less laughter, and conversations that revolved only around logistics. Slowly, it began to feel less like a marriage and more like living with a roommate.

I've learnt, it’s better to be intentional about our relationships; it’s healthier than letting them wither because we weren’t giving them enough attention. Think of a relationship as a garden: it needs the weeds cleared, the soil turned, and water to nourish it. Some plants need to be repotted so their roots can stretch freely, while others need support to grow straight and strong. Our relationships aren’t much different—they need care, effort, and room to grow.

I had to take action, but it wasn’t just about me—this was something we needed to work on together, and that meant starting with dialogue. Thankfully, that’s one thing we’ve always been good at. Still, scheduling time together felt awkward at first, almost like pencilling in a business meeting. It lacked spontaneity, and it definitely wasn’t sexy. But the truth was this: if we wanted our marriage to thrive, no matter the circumstances, we had to make it happen.

How It Played Out

Date nights were a great idea to start, but we needed a total reset, so we decided to take a well-earned break: a bae-cation—an adults-only trip without our technology, without other responsibilities, without distractions. This trip needed simplicity. We needed a recharge, which included a cocktail whenever the mood called for it. What we didn’t need was to spend the whole trip traveling and being bothered by details; we had enough of that on a regular basis.

We wanted a quiet escape, somewhere we didn’t have to think about anything but ourselves. We found common ground in the South of France. I felt there were so many things to explore, with all its culture and charm. There is so much beauty in this country: from the lush landscape of the countryside to the ancient village architecture, castles, and vineyards; an array of exquisite foods; nightlife; shopping; and even a glimpse into the celebrity lifestyle. Picture boat rides—and if you’re feeling a bit frisky, the naturist village is accessible and welcoming to all, whether curious or seasoned explorers.

We settled on a familiar vacation home—a true home away from home—surrounded by all the necessary amenities that gave us both the pleasure and ease of a vacation. The first thing that drew us to this spot was the weather. The climate of our hometown didn’t lend much to the atmosphere of our relationship, so this location had to be sunny. And even if the wind blew in, it would be a cool addition to the experience, not a chilling one.

We spent our time reading on the beach, cuddling up under the moonlight—how romantic—sleeping in, and taking walks by the pier. We had the opportunity to truly unplug and reconnect with what mattered; we indulged in each other, staying present. And when it came time to leave, we carried home a renewed sense of what we wanted our relationship to look like. It gave us reassurance and reaffirmed our ability to relax into our marriage. Our laughter grew louder and heartier, and it reflected in our child, too; our household felt lighter and more playful, even against the backdrop of bad weather.

Food for Thought

This trip worked out for us; it helped us put things into perspective, and the energy we had been expelling to other areas of our life found its place where it was most needed. Getting unplugged is a great way to rejuvenate and embrace the quality time that's required for any relationship to flourish.

Family vacations are a wonderful way to build deeper bonds with the kids, but couples need their own time too—and solo vacations are just as necessary, because you can’t pour from an empty cup. In fact, the next time I travel, I’d like it to be solo: no roles to play, no needs to fill but my own. The South of France has been my favourite escape so far, but next time I’m thinking retreat—nature, spas, and silence. Where would your perfect retreat be?

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When was the last time you unplugged and reconnected with your partner, your kids, or yourself?

If it’s been a while, I suggest you start planning—big or small, near or far. It doesn’t have to be the most extravagant or luxurious; remember, it’s not about the material things—it’s about presence.

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